I read an article today. It was titled “Don’t Apologize for Having a Big Heart.”
It really got me thinking, because I sincerely related to this article.
It spoke of being affected and attached to people. It spoke of falling without holding back.
When I care about someone, I ALWAYS do this.
Maybe I am falling for you as a friend, a lover, a mentor, a mentee. Whatever it may be, I always fall hard. I am affected by all around me, even those I do not “fall” for, I do still get attached.
I will not apologize for this and neither should you.
Having a big heart, a heart of gold, is what makes you who you are.
You are a wonderful person and there is no reason to change who you are.
Some people may get overwhelmed by your attachment or quick commitment to the relationship you share (whatever that may be).
Just because they get overwhelmed does not mean you should apologize for this.
Some people may put a wall up when you start to connect to them. This is because they are scared of the connection, not because there is anything wrong with you. Help them become comfortable with the connection by being proud of the person you are and loving even more.
Those of us with big hearts do not love everyone, but the ones we do love, we love hard and we value them.
Having a big heart means we are in touch with our emotions, we know how to relate and connect to others. We know when to embrace and hold back. We know when to sympathize. We know when to advise or listen. We just know what they need because we have allowed ourselves to connect deeply.
Most of all we know how to protect. We protect the people in our lives. We shelter them and let them fall around us whenever they may need to. The people in our lives know they can lean on us, confide in us and no matter what we will not judge and will continue to love them.
So please, never apologize for having a big heart. Understand that for some this may be difficult to accept. Some people cannot share and spread their emotions and love as easily, but that does not mean we are wrong in doing so.
Always love BIG, DEEPLY and without EXPECTATION.
to those of us with big hearts.